Threesome experiences: good experiences, horror stories, advice, and technical elaborations

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There is a small thread on Reddit so to start things off, we thought we would share some of their stories:

One user added:

Oh fun, story time. Details abound.

So I’ve had one threesome. It was with my then and current male partner (I’m a lady), and it went really surprisingly well, considering how badly our previous attempts at swinging went (but you didn’t ask for advice about foursomes).

Soooo we had our threesome with another guy.

Advice: (if possible) it’s nice when at least one person on the bed has had some experience with threesomes. It was my first, but both of the guys had done it before.

My bf put on some porn first to get us all in the mood and relaxed, which was helpful because it took off some of the pressure. Another WONDERFUL thing that he did was take it upon himself to be the first to disrobe. I’m not much of a “performer”, so I was nervous about the all-eyes-on-me aspect of a MFM threesome. Not having to be the first one naked made it so much easier for me personally.

Another bit of advice is: Just relax. It’s supposed to be fun! Maybe have one beer. (Not too many. That’s where one of our swinging attempts went wrong.)

After the sex starts, (so long as it’s not horrible) you really do just kind of get into the groove of things. My bf told me that beforehand, and I didn’t quite believe him. It’s true. It’s just sex, after all. There was an occasional awkward moment of, “well, how should we do this?” But just roll with it. You will find a way.

As far as configurations go, some things that worked well for us (some may be obvious…) were:

  • doggystyle with one while the other ate me out from below
  • spitroasting
  • DV. One guy laid down, I mounted him, and the other guy got behind me. We tried to do this twice, but the second time, my bf (who was at the bottom of the configuration) was so tired (having already come twice) that he just couldn’t have any more sex. The second guy did not realize this, and was fucking me from behind for a bit before laughing and saying, “Oh, I’m the only one inside of you!”

I’d recommend embracing these comedic moments. They can be nice.

I was surprised by the amount of talking that happened. It wasn’t just an hour of non-stop sex. We took breaks and chatted pretty frequently. Some of it was checking in with everyone (“Did you enjoy that?” “What do you want to do next?”), some of it was sex talk (he told us about a sex party he went to with a previous girlfriend), and some of it was just bullshittin’ about life and the city we live in.

Towards the end my bf was quite… sated, so he couldn’t go for any more rounds. The other guy was still hard, so I just looked over at him and said, “Should we take care of that?” I checked in with my bf and he was like, “go for it.” So we did while my bf enjoyed the view.

I could go on, but that’s undoubtedly plenty. Curious to see what others choose to share.

TL;DR: MFM threesome; I’m the F. Was extremely nervous leading up to it, but had a great time. Relax, watch some porn to warm up (if that helps), check in with everyone as needed, feel free to laugh and chat, and remember to have fun. Also, DV is a good time when you’ve got two fellas one lady, just saying.

Another user added:

I’m not sure if this question has been asked previously, but I’m glad you asked. I feel like threesomes are sort of uncharted territory, in terms of etiquette.

I’ve participated in three threesomes, all MFF (i’m female). One was with my boyfriend (so we were the couple), and in the other two, I was the free particle.

As it turns out, the one with my boyfriend was the worst experience. Looking back, I think he and I made rookie mistakes. We didn’t know what kind of decompression time we would need with each other, and ended up stomping on our third’s feelings by asking for some time alone afterwards.

In my second threesome, I was on the receiving end of those feelings. I slept with a married couple who didn’t tell me until after the sex was done that they have a rule about just the two of them sleeping in their bed. I remember feeling a little butt-hurt as I gathered my things and went to the guest bedroom.

My third threesome was an exercise in staying chill. Our male got stage fright, so there ended up being a LOT of oral and no PiV at all. Things definitely didn’t go according to plan, but it was still fun.

Positions? I’m going to second the experience of licking a pussy while being fucked. That was the highlight of all three experiences.

Looking back on the two experiences I had with couples, I think I would have wanted, at some point, to sit back and watch them enjoy each other. But I never expressed that desire, so it’s understandable that no one thought to do it.

Advice: if you’re the couple, talk about what you’re going to need to recover emotionally– first together, and then with your third. Make sure you know what your third will need as well, and do your best to accommodate. Couples’ privilege will ruin a threesome experience really fast.

No go ahead and share your stories and experiences.

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